 THE FEELING LETTER FORMAT
Level 4: REMORSE and APOLOGIES (2 minutes) Level 5: LOVE, UNDERSTANDING, GRATITUDE, and FORGIVENESS (2 minutes) Love, _____________ Do the Meditation on Twin Hearts or other advanced meditation techniques to experience inner love within us. When we experience inner love within, our co-dependency and romantic love disappears and true unconditional love blossoms. We then have unexhausting love to give which will eventually improve and sustain all kinds of relationships. Lastly, You can have your LUNCH as a reward NOTE: The purpose of a feeling letter is not to dump criticism, resentment, and judgement on your partner, anybody or even to yourself. It's not written to try to change or correct them, nor to point out their inadequacies. If used in this way it will not work. It works only when it's written for you to feel more loving (you don't even have to send it to them). Many men have a tendency to cope with feelings by first thinking about them while many women prefer to talk aloud to sort them out. This fundamental conflict can be resolved using the feeling letter technique. It is particularly helpful for women to get in touch with their feelings at those times when their male partner is not wanting to talk and there is no one else to talk to. When a woman has to wait a long time to talk about her feelings a frustation builds up and then when she does talk she is so upset that he can't listen without feeling blamed, mistrusted or attacked. (Men may also react this way as well.) I recommend that men use the feeling letter technique for those times when thinking about what's bothering them doesn't bring back them to feeling their loving feelings. Whenever you feel resentful or annoyed use this technique. FUNNY QUOTE GENERATORAnother technology I would recommend is Solution Focused Counselling which effectively reduce or erase unwanted painful emotions, neurosis, compulsions, repressions and psychosomatic ills as discussed in my website Solution Focused Addictions Counselling. To book for Solution Focused Counselling, call me at (604) 987-1797 or email me at serrano@holisticwebs.com Last Update October 15, 2002 Prepared by Ricardo B. Serrano, DAc, MH, ADS |